I Embraced My Amazing in the Steakhouse Bathroom

by The Park Wife on October 7, 2014

Call Bruno, I finally had my moment, yes, I am amazing.

I watched Oprah for years.  I even read Ekart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” where I learned ways to break through the vanity and pride of the ego. I have heard many well-known social media superstars talk about drawing healthy boundaries. And, I know all the scriptures.

From the beginning, I knew I needed to be diligent and to protect my heart and mind from measuring my self-worth according to my number of followers or likes in this social media driven world.

I was blogging back in 2006 when I had to explain to people what a blog was. Have mercy, there are still times I do, but only once in a while. Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and on and on, the pageantry of vanity is detrimental to truth, to the core of who I am.  So, I have guarded myself.

Every once in a while after I worked hard on something like a conference, had Harry Connick Jr posting my blog on his Facebook, Chelsea Clinton spending the day with my family, or being published on a cover of a magazine, I would get excited for a minute and then stop myself and squelch the celebration. Fear would take hold. Watch out for haughtiness, it is so unbecoming.

I would remind myself: Wait The Park Wife! remember, you can walk in Wal-Mart and not one person knows your social media power, they have no idea of how you have gathered a group of amazing women doing amazing things in this online world, or that the Junk Gypsy’s commented on your Instagram again today.

And, I accepted my self defeat talk.

See, I was trying to be so diligent in not celebrating my successes in fear of the ego becoming a problem, that I went to the other end of the spectrum and always felt it was never good enough. That I had to talk myself down off the social media high horse.

Until the day at the bathroom at the steakhouse in Hattiesburg, MS.

We had just finished an amazing Arkansas Women Bloggers Conference, I signed a big deal with a huge marketing company to provide social media infleuncers/talent to help on campaigns, the boys were rocking on their school, hubby and I were in one of our lovey dovey stages, dang, life was good.

We were headed to the beach for a week and had stopped in Hattiesburg to have lunch with two of my brothers who live there. We all hugged, then I went to wash up in the bathroom. And, that is when it happened. KAPOW! BAM! BRUNO!

Bruno Mars song You Are Amazing, Just the Way you are was on.  I listened a minute, and said heck yea man, I am freakin’ amazing. I have a husband I take great care of, I even starch his uniform shirts (not with a happy heart, but I do it), I am a great mother to two healthy, smart children who I get to homeschool and be an active part of their childhood, and then there is the group of amazing women in my life, many I have met through a blog community I founded and built. Oh wait, there are eight of those communities now.  And, yes it is AMAZING. All day long sistahs.

I returned to the table, looked at my husband and said ” I am amazing”.

He looked at me with those beautiful blue eyes that spoke truth right through them and said, “well yes you are honey”.  I finally got what he always tries to tell me.

It has always meant more to me that I am well thought of than well-known in this social media world. I am at heart an encourager of dreams and supporter of women. And, by golly, I think I am doing a pretty good job with that. From now on, I will celebrate it all. Rejoice in the amazing of who I am and the things He has used me to do.

For those of you struggling today about your self-worth, your weight, your inability to do it all, that you are not enough, or whatever it may be, take it from me (with a little help from Bruno), you are amazing just the way you are.

Let’s embrace it,
The Park Wife


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Amanda Farris October 7, 2014 at 12:34 pm

Thanks for the post! I identified with every bit of it! We want to rejoice, be excited, celebrate awesomeness. But yet, don’t’ want to be egocentric, haughty, prideful, and just plain annoying. You go girl! Celebrate, be happy, and bless others. Find the tribe that loves you for you and celebrate the amazing.

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:06 pm

Thanks sweet friend, and wow, we sure do have an amazing tribe.

Lori Walker October 7, 2014 at 1:12 pm

I read this post and you know what came to mind? Cookies brought to a newbie on the mountain, an open invitation to come hang out, signing me up on the dating website where i would meet my soul mate, volunteering to take me to get lasik even though it meant getting an early morning babysitter (which I didnt fulky appreciate at the time but do now!). And raising the most respectful young men that I know. Yes, my friend, Ive known you are amazing for 12 years, Im glad you finally see it!

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:07 pm

Oh Lori, thank you. I always tell the the boys that the two most importatn things are to love Jesus and love people. I hope I can actively show them how to love others.

Lana Pugh October 7, 2014 at 4:09 pm

Yes, lady, you are amazing! It’s hard living in a world that constantly tells you there’s something about yourself you need to change, from what you weigh to the cut and color of your hair. Rock out mamma! We all need to remember to shine from time to time. 🙂

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:07 pm

Amen sistah!

Jenny October 7, 2014 at 5:40 pm

Yes you are! This is so awesome. You rock, my friend:)!

Jamie October 7, 2014 at 8:32 pm

My sweet friend, you are amazing. Glad you finally caught on 😉

I liked how you said that you are well thought of more than well known. I think with your strength of character and steadfastness, you can accomplish being well thought of AND well known. You are amazing for how you empower women, empower anyone around you. That is a true sign of a leader.

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:08 pm

Thank you Jamie, that means so much coming from you. I am so glad this blog world brought us into the same place and just the right time. Blessings friend.

Fawn @ Instead of the Dishes October 7, 2014 at 9:47 pm

Congratulations, you’ve arrived! You are SO amazing, and I just feel so lucky and happy that I get to bask in your amazing on a fairly regular basis. Amaze on, amazemama.

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:09 pm

It takes friends like you Fawn to make the amazing happen. I am only lucky, blessed gal.

Jacqueline Presley October 7, 2014 at 9:52 pm

Love it. You are. I am. We are amazing.

The Park Wife October 18, 2014 at 4:09 pm

Preach it friend!

Kaylin @ Enticing Healthy Eating October 7, 2014 at 9:56 pm

This is one of my most beloved Bruno Mars songs. That man knows the way to my heart, I swear! I’m a huge fan–and you’re right, the song has a deep message to it that we should all remember. If you ever get the chance to see Bruno live in concert, DO IT! He’s even better live than on the radio if you can believe it.

Allyson Twiggs Dyer October 8, 2014 at 1:53 pm

Glad you figured out sweet friend, what so many of us have known about you all along! Wonderful blog post, thank you for writing and reminding all of us that we are amazing! xoxo

janie October 8, 2014 at 2:11 pm

We all need that pep talk from time to time, especially when we are out of our element and subjected to frailty and insecurity.

Debbie October 12, 2014 at 1:21 pm

My earlier comment went off to live among the stars

Debbie October 12, 2014 at 1:24 pm

Dang! Where did it go??? I’m glad you finally realized what we’ve all been telling you, Sweet Pea

Michelle October 13, 2014 at 10:00 am

Why yes, you are amazing!!! Thanks for this great post!

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